Joy Ride or Hell Ride

When  I was a kid, I used to think about driving my own vehicle. And today is the time, I have my own.

Yes! I got my vehicle handed-over to me. The moment I was just about to hit the road, there was a bike coming in wrong side hit by bike. 

What is wrong with this guy? He got me a heart attack. It took money and pain from me to recover.

Everyone have to go fast somewhere or the other. Who knows where. Never bothered to think where can that take you to.

The most concerned factor is, ineffective use of vehicles on the road by  youngsters. The riding spree evolving out of their enthusiasm towards liberal life. It feels good and everyone felt it. But where is this, driving them to. Driving is a pleasure! No doubt in it. I myself live with it. But driving is, just not a phenomenon to move a vehicle. It also involves sense of responsibility with it. Now, that is what is difficult to be  developed now a days.

Almost every day we find one or the other cases of accidents in newspapers. I personally remember when three of my lecturer friend's students died when they hit a truck coming in opposite direction on a National Highway. It happened when the driving guy tried to overtake any truck. But the time was not sufficient. And on top of it they were triple riding.

Reckless incurs Panicky to the one sitting behind, and mostly to the people driving around you on the road. 

And many times it even costs life to others those who are not at all responsible for the situation. This is why I 

believe that driving requires a sense of responsibility.

It also applies to those who dont even care who is crossing the road or walking by the side of the road. Even if it is raining or any situation. Why is this so difficult to understand that despite of being in a car, we want to reach  home as early as possible. What could those people do, who do not even have a cycle to rush to their home. Well, here I am not asking anyone to drop them at their place. At least, we can have little sense to let them walk by the side, no being so senseless to drive without even caring if we are spilling gallons of dirty water on them. With this, I remember once a great man said "Despite of different positions we hold in our lives, we are all humans. Let us respect that.

I know it is always easy to say that it was other person's mistake. Just  before saying it, think for a moment.

"Is that really his mistake?". You don't even have to accept before anyone. You will get the genuine answer for sure.

All I want to say is let us making every ride a joy ride and our life, a happy journey.

Have a safe driving!!!

Safety as simple as ABC

Thanks for Reading

Vinay.Srihari.Mukesh

Its Me Who Is Hurt

     "I am nothing! I don't have anyone to go to." I know it is a rare feeling because we have our friends and family to guide us in such situations. What if the reason for this is your family or friends. Many times it happens that we feel dejected by them.

"How can this happen?" 

     Well, it doesn't really need to be a big reason. Remember something! It is just a feeling a person gets. It may not be intended always. For an instance, let me depict a situation for you. How will a new graduate student feel when his poor parents  ask him about getting employed everyday, despite of his rigorous trials.

     They do not intend to pressurize him or make him feel incompetent. But where do you think the graduate should go. To friends? What if the same old friends are already employed at the trials he failed. Now he cant even go to them. Whom can he go to. No one and this is where he started to feel that there is no hope and adequate talent to qualify for a job and he is under depression.

    But the question remains the same here? What should he do now to get out of it. It is a big and unanswered question to many of us. I believe that to overcome this kind of situation, he should do something he has been thinking of, since his childhood. And try to make this profession. Even if it is a small one. Believe me self-achievement feels great.

    Now a days, we here a lot about suicides attempts by youngsters. And the reason for most of the suicides is love failure or exam failure.

    Let us discuss about first reason first. My discussion starts with a question to youngsters. Is love failure worth dying and why. If someone ask me that question, I would say Love is worth dying not so called Love failure. I do not intend to disrespect someone's feelings here. All I want to say is if it is truly Love, why cant we wait to achieve it.

     I would like to say the same for exam failures as well that we have exams for a path to living but not that we live to get a path to exams. We can always try and clear the exams. Because once you clear and move further, a small failure won’t matter for you then.

    I also believe that every story cannot have happy ending. But do these failures really fade away all the love you have around you from your parents, friends and well wishers? Obviously, No!

It is not that I do not know what you are going through. All I am trying to say is everything can be achieved. All you have to do is live for it and try.

    Contrary to factors we discussed above, here is situation where due to one's mistake, another is suffered from depression.

  Very often it happens that children of busy working parents get into depression because the parents can't find time to spend with the children and often such parents send the kids to boarding school and the children spend the precious time of their life in a bounded place, away from their own people.

Hence, let us not neglect our children's lives due to something which we actually do for the betterment's of their lives. Else, we may lose the life for which we have done this.

Depression is a phase which takes us to nowhere and by the time we realize this, we already lose most of our life.

So, let us not lose the hope and give some of it to others as well.

Happy Living!!!

Thanks for Reading

Vinay.Srihari.Mukesh

Know It When You Have It

"I have everything". Ever felt like this before? I am certain that we never felt it that way. But ever thought? Why? What is that I dont have that makes me incomplete? 

When I pass by the streets, I see that there is an old woman sitting at the same place everyday with all the scrap and dirt all around her. And when it rains and we run to our houses to not get drenched in water, I get a question Where would that woman must have gone. That is when I get a feeling that I definitely have an important thing which many dont have.

  

I reached home safely. But I still didn't get the answer of the question.

 

Not just this, everytime we have food, we are never satisfied with food and desire of all delicious cuisines. But  there are millions of people in this world who dont even have a grain of rice to feed themselves. And we say that we dont have anything. 

I know time changes and we start to earn  good and we fulfil many of our dreams we dreamed of since childhood. Let us not forget who we are originally. "Human being". And there are plenty other human beings who need our help or support. They may not be our family but as a fellow human being, we can at least help them fulfil their dreams. Hey! don't worry. Their dreams are not big ones. Just fist ful of food and place to hide under from rain and storm.  

Believe me it feels very good to see the hope in their eyes when you spare a helping hand.  

End of the day, it is us who should make the move. 

Think of it!





Taste of Happiness

Taste of Happiness

          ^{Am I a happy man? Or I am just pretending. What can determine this? May be, it is just like a sparrow that flies from house to house that makes us think that the bird is our pet. But, it is actually not.} 

           ^{I am sure that in most of the interviews that we have been through, we were asked 'What is your happiest moment?'. Do we really have answer to it? No! Because we often don't keep good memories with us as it fades away as time passes by. But it is other way round when it comes bad moments. Because it is our nature that we are happy never satisfied with small happiness. That is the reason we always think 'I am the only unluckiest person who is away from Happiness'.}

          ^{Being said that, again the same question comes to my mind "what is happiness?” I believe it is a moment that gives  you relief and force, that drives you to positive living. If this is that important, why am I missing it? May e are just neglecting it.} 

^{Actually, we come across the happiness hundreds of times everyday.}

         ^{Yes, every day! Every time you wake up there is bed tea ready for you, everyday you are ready clothes are ironed for you, there is food available for you unlike many unfortunates, you have a personal vehicle to commute where others still have to use public services, you have a job to earn wherein many just do anything for the whole day but they don't earn much and many many more. All of the above may not be happening in the exactly same way with every one. But I am sure that every one of us has things like these that many others don't. Does all these matters? Yes, it does a lot. But we forget these and try to find happiness only in those that we don't have. If you still find it hard to believe, just imagine life without all these. How was it? Disastrous?}

^{So let us not really get ourselves into somethings that doesn't exist and cherish the life with what we have.}

^{There is nothing much to talk about. It is simple thing but life boosting. Cheer up!}

A Day in Corporate life

A Day in Corporate life

"Corporate life". One must not have ever heard this word in childhood. Not in any of the phases. But the time has come, years of studies past. Now we get to hear this word "Corporate". What does this word actually mean? We never knew and this got lost in our daily routine.

As time passes by, we try to find a job. After a lot of trials, so called "failures", we found one and we are the kings and Queens of the world when we find one. 

There comes the first day of our first job, and there is when we hear this word again from a beautiful lady who walks in the conference room for induction.

"Corporate""Corporate".

But what is this?

Oh! Is it the huge buildings with glassy walls and full of trees and garden around or is it the people moving around with laptops talking to each other in English using lots of jargon about work. Whatever it is, makes us very nervous. We dont know anything and there is an ocean to explore in future days.

Sometimes, I wondered, will there be any person who thinks like me, who has same simple way of living and who comes from a family which thinks a lot when it comes to spending each penny. And whenever we see a person at the workplace, we wonder, why is he so serious? Can't  he even smile. Is this "Corporate"?

Month passes by, we become a part of all that what we thought about Corporate. But How? May be the timeline crunches and the One-O-Ones are the reason. But there are numerous other reasons as well, to get versed in this world. What are they? There is a very big answer to it. You know, most of the times, you feel that there is an emptiness in here. No one to look after you because no one is allowed to even have a look at you from your home. All alone from your people. But one day, you see that you started to make circle of friends in here and you start to live your life in here as well. There are many seasons in this world too. One is when you find an electric smile of a girl whom you always thought of talking to. It feels great. Isn't it? But the question is how long that smile will last for me.

Of course, few smiles last forever. But you know that those are not real.

God knows what makes them smile even when they don't feel to.

One fine day I found the person who took my interview.......I remember, he asked me at the interview, "where do you want to see yourself after 2 years?", and without even waiting for a second thought I said “Team Leader".

Now every time I recollect this moment, I laugh at myself after realizing what it takes to become a Team Leader.

I didnt see much difference in this corporate life to school life. In school life, we studied for marks. Whereas in here, we work for promotion or recognition. Nothing is great!

One thing is for sure! How much ever great it may look from out side, it will look great, the difference can only be seen once get into it.

But hey, how much ever you say about corporate, It is the only thing that is giving you an identity to the world, and confidence to build your life. Be it a home or your family or neighborhood. And I believe we should never forget it.

Did you ever think that we have been talking about this world so long? But how do we come to this world daily. Obviously, the answer is, using Transport. But it is never a regular transport that comes in mind. 

Because it is when you feel 'Got to go to Office, perhaps there could be a way to take a leave'. But the same transport becomes a Jolly ride when you are going back to home from work when you feel 'this evening should never end'.

Doing all this, months passes by, years passes by, and after all these years, few of us try to find different meaning of "Corporate world". But most of us already realise that it is no different world. All it takes is what it is paying for.

I CAN

To get correct answers, one should start by asking right questions. Here is few

• How many times you stepped back and said “Next time”?
• How many times your fear stopped you to address the big crowd?
• How many times you forced yourself to sit without asking any doubt in the training session?
• Why did you hide your face to avoid questions by your trainer?
• Why did you stand behind to lead anything?

 We are done with few questions. Now let us understand what made you to do so.

1.       Hesitation:  If you want something, you have to go and get it. Otherwise your wish will not be fulfilled. Different people have different upbringing experiences. Few people might have grown up in an orthodox cal way, few might be reserved type of mentality; few might be scared of opposite gender.

Here are few tips.

Have a chat with your colleague on a lighter note. Wish everyone in your work atmosphere. Next time, your mind doesn’t get any feeling of hesitation while speaking with them. Over a period of time, you will be good at dealing with strangers as well.

2.       Fear:  People won’t kill you, if you ask a doubt or raise your hand to answer the question. Your doubts will not be clarified unless you keep your fear aside and speak. You might have wasted time and money, if you don’t use the platform with the mask of fear.

3.       Don’t give up because YOU CAN: The easiest thing in the world is to give up. But you will not get anything out of it. Just go for opposite. You will see the beauty of accomplishment, sense of achievement and self satisfaction.

Next time when you attempt something, be confident that you can do justice to it. Don’t loose hope. Don’t be scared of repercussions. You can do anything if you put hope, persistence in your life. Success is a series of small attempts. Sometimes you may not see immediate results. Patience is important. Remember that you are closer to success than yesterday. Your efforts will be trashed, if you give up.

Build Relationships

Build Relationships

One will be surprised at how the couple, people are spending their lives!!!

Weekdays are filled with scheduled & unscheduled meetings, quick lunches, gossips on wide variety of topics, special coaching sessions with boss, waiting for cab, stuck in traffic for hours, sleeping with half-stomach. Kids with homework, studies.

Thank God It’s Friday. Weekend. Weekends are filled with bars, pubs, movies, shopping.

Days are gone.

Summer holidays. Couple enquired the whole city and joined their kids in summer camp. Karate, swimming, dance, music etc,. Finally June came. Again, the same routine.

It is the life of almost everyone. May be Puri replaces Idli, Bike replaces Car, dinner menu might be different. 

People are living together like machines are placed side by side. Parents are earning machines, kids are reading machines. Kids are spending time with computer games and adults with Facebook, twitter etc,. Weekends in bars, pubs, shopping complex. Unknowingly or with complete awareness, people are leading hardcore materialistic lives.

Does anyone spend time with their grannies and listen to their words, stories? This generation is well aware of all the series of Harry Potter. Just question them about Indian epics and see the blank expression on their faces as if they are asked rocket science at the age of 3 years. Earlier, all the kids gather in the evening and force their elders to tell them stories. Grannies used to teach stories with moral value, the greatness of Indian heroes in the history. Thus, the values are injected in the lives of children. They help to lead their lives with satisfaction.

Does anyone spend time with orphans and understand the greatness of relationships? They don’t have parents, relatives. We are struggling a lot though everything is supplied on time by our parents. Can you imagine what would be the situation of the people who are not received by anyone. Can you imagine the struggle they do every day. They know very well about the relationships.

Don’t spend too much time with physical world, Digital world. Try to build relationships. Go to every function that you are invited. Greet everyone with smile. Had a chat. Know them. If possible, invite their family to your home. Try to know what happened to depressed colleague in your office. Listen to them. Console them. If possible, suggest them what needs to be done. Visit nearby orphanage. Spend time with them. They know very well about relationships than that of anyone. You will be the reason of smile on their face for a moment.

At the start of the day, you earn, you enjoy, you struggle. But at the end of the day, it is relationships that make you happy, gives satisfaction.

Next time when you happen to see your colleague depressed, go and have a chat. Spend few days of your summer holidays with your grannies, relatives. Expand your relative network. At least, monthly once vist nearby orphanage or old-age home.

See the difference in your life!!!!

Relationships are more important than life...But it is important for Relationships to have life in them.

 Swami Vivekananda.

Face the Problem !!

“What happened? You are looking like No-energy creature. What’s wrong with you?”

“I have so many problems. You can’t understand it.”

Damn it.

Don’t give such type of nasty expression on your face as if you are the father of all the problems in the universe. Do you think that you only have problems? Even dogs, pigs have their own problems. Problem is the bitter parcel and part of life.

You know one great thing!!! Problem is a platform to showcase the world who you are. It introduces you to the deep layers of life. Don’t you think it is funny to attempt suicide for the so called problem?

Come on. Grow up my pal.

Problem and solution are couples. Both stay together. Problem gives you opportunity to learn. Solution tests how much extent you grabbed the opportunity.

What do you do when a problem knocks your door?

• First of all treat problem as problem only but not like a ghost came to your house to kill you.
• Don’t use microscopes or ultra microscopes to deal with. Just invite as if you invite your friend and serve a glass of water. Sometimes, small things look like giant china wall.
• Don’t be so panic about the implications. It worsens the situation and ambiance.
• Balance your emotions. For the people who deal with problems and investments, balancing of emotions is very important.
• After you followed the above points, your brain is now ready to analyse the problem and it goes by different strategies. Our nerve cells and hormones are well equipped to deal with the problems and solutions. Use them. Think above, think below, think sideways.. whatever.. but you have to go through it.

This is very important one. Follow first four points religiously to make fifth one work out in proper manner and get the solution.

Imagine life without problems for a moment.... It is like watching TV without cable/DTH connection. No entertainment. It doesn't mean you have to invite problems. But be ready for the fun.

Yes, it is completely acceptable that few problems will make you sleepless. But remember problems will not be solved unless you sleep and keep fit. Many people might have done project works in their college or office. You create one natural or artificial problem in the ambiance and you use different tools to solve it. Same thing will be applicable here.

Root cause analysis of problems. It gives precise solutions.

If you don’t have the problem of appetite, shelter, food etc., you will not go to work and earn few bucks. They are the basic needs of life.

 Likewise problems are basic elements to enrich and lead a successful life.

“All power is within you; you can do anything and everything. Believe in that, do not believe that you are weak; do not believe that you are half-crazy lunatics, as most of us do nowadays. You can do any thing and everything, without even the guidance of any one. Stand up and express the divinity within you.” 
                                                                                              Swami Vivekananda

Know Your Power

              People often read stories or articles of successful people in magazines and internet. They think momentarily that When will we see our names?????.... They get excited for a moment and keep that as trash. It happens many times in the life of people who think that things will be possible by few only.

Here just ask one simple question. 

Why can’t we????...

The great Indian Management Guru C.K. Prahlad used a term “Core Competence”in his book “Core Competence of the Corporation”.

Likewise everyone has their own competencies. Realize it. Self realization of worthy object is called Development. Assess your skills. Hone it. Understand what is needed to reach your goal. Align your skill set to your goals. You may face little hurdles. But think that every hurdle is an opportunity. It increases your chances of standing up in the battle of life.

You should see success in failure. It was 1000th attempt to Thomas Edison to realize that the Melting point of Tungsten suits as filament in bulb. It is constant hope, perseverance, patience. Just imagine who will stay for 1000 attempts without loosing hope and patience. He trusted on his goal. He is confident on his project and it’s immense use to people. Above all he knows about himself more than anyone else.

Learning is of two types. One by self experience. It is very hard way of learning. Second one is learning from other experiences. It is a smart way of learning.

Yours hurdles will be faded away by your learning. Learning is experience. Don’t learn the things to cross the situation only. Learn and get ready to encounter it in your future endeavors.

Achieving goals is a simple process if you unleash the height of your potential.

Lead a successful life...

“All power is within you; you can do anything and everything. Believe in that, do not believe that you are weak; do not believe that you are half-crazy lunatics, as most of us do nowadays. You can do anything and everything, without even the guidance of any one. Stand up and express the divinity within you.”

Swami Vivekananda 

Starting Problem

           

Every one has their own Dreams….Someone wants to become a Fashion Designer, someone wants to run a Restaurant …Someone wants to change the Stream BPS to ITS….nowadays most of the Students wants to become a Film Director.

            But here the problem is where to start…..many of us do not know where to start the things …Irrespective of Industry

Keep all your ideas on paper…

Check how much knowledge you have on your ideas….

Are you clear on your idea?

For example if you want to become director….then just check what are the things you need  to start direction, start shooting small videos with a camera whatever available at your home, Mix some audio to it…Show it to your friends and parents take their feedback..and work on it, Once you are confident on it take a subject and work on it.  

Do not postpone your ideas …do not feel that what others think on yours ideas..

 Pull-up your socks and start ….today itself

All the Best

 Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life - think of it, dream of it, and live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success.

Swami Vivekananda